REBUILDING ON FRIENDSHIP

Sometimes, even your best friends can still surprise you with their kindness. And when it happens, it makes you appreciate what you have even more.

My home, for some reason, has always been the gathering place for my friends and I to watch major sporting events. If the Yankees are in the playoffs, which they usually are, I can usually count on a room full of guys to be watching the games throughout the entire month of October. I’ve got a finished basement, which serves as our official sports room. It’s decorated with some nice memorabilia, it’s got plenty of seating, a big TV, a fridge, plus its own restroom and entrance. I can’t even tell you how many games we’ve watched down there over the years or how many laughs we’ve shared. We call them our “gatherings,” and we’re good for about a dozen a year.

Recently, however, my basement wasn’t up to the task of hosting a “gathering.”

I’d had a bit of a groundwater problem in one of the basement's rooms for years. Usually, it would only happen about twice a year after a major monsoon, but the excessive rains of 2011 had made it a more prevalent problem. In late summer, when hurricanes and tropical storms seemed to visit us on a weekly basis, I decided to finally get the problem fixed. After consulting with several professionals, it was clear that I needed a French-drain and sump pump, and that it was going to be a pretty big job. They’d be lifting the carpet, jack-hammering the floors inside the house, ripping out some of the drywall, pouring concrete and generally making a big mess of the place. The upside was a lifetime guarantee of permanent dryness. The downside was that once the drain and pump were installed, the company’s work was done. Getting the room back together would be my responsibility. I’d have to find another contractor to replace the drywall and do all of the other work to get the place back in order.

It was a bit daunting, but I had no choice. It needed to be done.

I hired them.

This was back in October, and because the company was still so busy with all of the September flooding, they said they wouldn’t be able to do the job until early December. I said that was fine, and one day, shortly after I’d signed the contract, I was riding out to Yankee Stadium with a few friends when I told them I was finally going to get the water problem in the basement fixed. I told them all that what was involved, and that even after the drain and pump were installed, I’d still have lots of additional expenses in fixing up the room. We were just chatting. I wasn’t seeking any help. And I had no idea that some of my friends knew how to do such work. I was just venting about what a mess I was going to have in my basement and how expensive it was going to be.

“Dude,” they said. “Don’t pay somebody to do that extra stuff. We know how to do it. We’ll help you.”

They explained that dry-walling was easy, and that what might cost me a few hundred bucks to have somebody come in and do could actually be done for much less. I graciously accepted their offer, and told them that after the holidays, I’d be ready for their help.

The big day came about two weeks ago on Saturday. The drain and pump had been installed and my basement was indeed a mess, but I was not surprised at all that the guys that had told me they’d help me three months prior all showed up. I put out some donuts for breakfast, ordered some pizza for lunch, and the plan was to get the project done in one day.

Not happening.

We continuously hit one snag after another. The drywall that was removed while installing the drain was not cut evenly, making patching in the new material much more difficult. The support beams that were partially removed were also not cut evenly, making attaching and securing new wood much more difficult. Even the new concrete over the new drain was not smoothed evenly, which made everything more difficult.

“Those guys,” said my friends, “did a hack job on your house.”

This was frustrating. But through it all, I also I saw what type of friends I had. Clearly, this was going to be bigger job than they’d bargained for. An expected trip to Lowe’s turned into four or five as new obstacles were encountered and new materials were needed. My driveway looked like a lumberyard, full of fine tools that were not mine, but theirs. Some of the guys were back again on Sunday, and even during the week in the evenings. And yet amid it all, we had lots of laughs. Whenever a new unforeseen problem was encountered, we called it a “Funt,” in reference to the late Allen Funt of the show "Candid Camera." And there were lots of “Funts” throughout the week. Too many.

Laughing, occasional swearing … it all happened in the basement as boards were cut, walls were replaced and the radio played. And the conversations were engaging. Who knew that one friend was so disenchanted with Alex Rodriguez that he wished the Yankees would ship him out? Who knew, until an AC/DC song came on the radio, that the same friend preferred Bon Scott over Brain Johnson? Both of these topics led to spirited debates.

Finally, after a week of sawing, nailing, spackling and sanding, the dust settled, both figuratively and literally. And last Sunday, we all sat there in our usual seats comfortably watching the NFL’s Championship Sunday. We had set Championship Sunday as our goal to complete job, and we did it.

Well ... my friends did it.

Throughout the week, I frequently thanked them for all of their help, to which one flatly replied, “This is how America was built. People helping each other out.”

Maybe it is that simple. But their gesture was not. They gave me a lot of their time and put in a lot of work. And though I wasn’t around when America was built, I do know how my basement was rebuilt.

It was done with friendship.

TWO 'BUZZES' ARE BETTER THAN ONE

Though the “Toy Story” saga has been entertaining children since 1995, our family is relatively new to the Disney-produced animated gems. Our daughter, Mary Ann, is only four years old and our son, A.J., is only two. And thus it was the summer of 2011 when we first began to watch the three “Toy Story” films on DVD. And truthfully, it was Dad here who was the last to sit down and watch them. My wife and the kids had been enjoying them for quite a while before I finally got around to sitting through the first one, but once I did, I was just as eager as everyone to see the two sequels. They’re wonderful movies for kids and they come with just enough wit to also entertain adults.

Simply put: I like “Toy Story.” And my kids love “Toy Story.”

At Christmastime, the children let it be known that they would like Santa to bring a little “Toy Story“ to our house. They wanted a “Buzz Lightyear” action figure, as well as “Woody” and “Jessie.” They were told that if they were good, Santa would probably grant their requests, and once my wife and I decided to start our “Santa” shopping, we planned to get them the three “Toy Story” characters that they liked best. At least that was my plan. My wife, however, had another idea.

“We'll need to get two Buzz Lightyears,” she said. “One for each of them.”

“Why?” I asked. “I thought they’d share them.”

“They won’t,” she said. “At least not the Buzz Lightyears. They both love him. And they'll each need to have their own. If they don’t, they’ll fight over him.”

“Well," I said. “We are their parents. Isn’t it our job to teach them to share?”

“Trust me,” she said. ”It won’t happen. It will be a nightmare.”

Knowing that my wife was the one that was usually at home with the kids during the day and that she would be the one that might have to serve as referee in this daily tug-of-war over Buzz Lightyear, I agreed that Santa would bring one to each of them. There was one problem, however. Once we started our holiday shopping, we noticed that some of the “Toy Story” characters were pretty hard to come by, especially the incredibly popular Buzz Lightyear. And though we briefly panicked, I was able to order them online. Two Buzz Lightyears were on their way. Our kids were in fact very good. And Santa would reward them.

And that’s when things got complicated. In fact, that’s when the whole wonderful vision of Santa through a child's eyes was nearly destroyed in our home.

One afternoon, just a few days after we ordered our Buzz Lightyears, my wife pulled the car up in front of the house with the two kids in tow. She parked, unbuckled them from the seats, and as children often do, they ran off ahead of her to the front porch. And that’s when she heard exclamations of sheer joy.

“Buzz Lightyear! Buzz Lightyear!”

Though it took my wife only a few seconds to get there, the damage was done. The Buzz Lightyears had indeed arrived and, inexplicibly, the delivery box was wide open on the front porch. And the kids had them. To say my wife was not only disappointed but also angry would be an understatement. A few days later, she asked the UPS driver how this could have happened. He explained that drivers are supposed to re-tape all boxes that are accidentally opened during delivery, but he said that not all of them do it. Great. Just great.

We had ourselves a Christmas crisis.

Fortunately, she thought quickly, right on the spot. She told the kids that these toys were not ours and that they must have been delivered to our house by mistake. She even went as far as to tell them that they must have been meant for our neighbor across the street, and that our neighbor must have ordered them for her nieces and nephews. And, in full damage control mode, we later asked our neighbor to come over to our house and – in front of the kids - inquire if we had mistakenly received her delivery. We told her that indeed we had and the Buzz Lightyears were "returned" to her.

That seemed to solve at least a part of the problem. But our daughter is now almost five years old and is as sharp as a tack. She doesn’t miss a trick, and we still felt that if the Buzz Lightyears were under the tree on Christmas morning and were “from Santa," she still might somehow connect them to what she had seen on the front porch a few weeks prior. And so we decided that the Buzz Lightyears would be gifts from Mommy and Daddy, and Santa would bring other gifts. And the truth is, once Christmas morning arrived and the hasty unwrapping began, the nametags seemed pretty obsolete. There were lots of gifts under the tree, and that’s all the kids seemed to care about. Of couse we still made a point to emphasize that the Buzz Lightyears were from us, not Santa, and thankfully the kids made no mention of the opened-box incident.

We did it. Was saved the magic of Santa. At least, hopefully, for a few more years.

As far the two Buzz Lightyears go, my wife was right. We needed two. In fact, since Christmas, my daughter has already told me that ”My Buzz Lightyear is the real Buzz Lightyear. A.J.’s isn’t the real one.” I can’t imagine what it would have been like if we only had one. Mommy knew best.

Two Buzz Lightyears are better - and smarter - than one.

KEEPING CHRISTMAS WELL

I’ve always felt that Christmas should be celebrated in a certain way. It has been my philosophy for many years, but this is the first year that I have properly conveyed my thoughts to my family and friends.

Here it is: I do not want to do any running around, shopping or gift-wrapping for at least two full days prior to Christmas. By December 23rd it's time to relax and to really start enjoying the holiday.

First, let me make it clear that I love Christmas. Love everything about it. Love the family traditions, the music, the gift-giving and the spiritual meaning behind the holiday. And with two young children, having Santa coming to our house makes it even more fun and more special. But one thing I’ve realized as I've gotten older is that while we often spend a full month getting ready for Christmas, the big day itself can sometimes feel like a letdown. Christmas morning is fun. The kids open their gifts from Santa, and you might also exchange gifts with your loved ones. And if you didn’t go to a religious service on Christmas Eve, you might attend church. But let’s face it, by early afternoon, it sometimes feels as if the holiday is already over. And perhaps that’s because our anticipation of Christmas is really what excites us about it. We enjoy buying gifts for people and we hope that they like them. We enjoy the holiday songs, the TV specials, sending out greeting cards and all of the preparation that goes into the celebration. And then – boom – just like that, it’s over.

Well, not for me. I have a plan. My goal is to always be completely finished in preparing for Christmas by Dec. 22nd or 23rd. Done shopping. Done wrapping. No hustle. No bustle. On the final day or two leading up to Christmas, I will relax and enjoy it. I will sit in our home and admire our tree and decorations. I’ll dim the lights, put on a holiday CD by Elvis, Sinatra, Andy Williams or Johnny Mathis, and really listen to the lyrics and enjoy the songs. I’ll watch “A Christmas Carol,” "White Christmas" or “It’s A Wonderful Life,” even if I’ve already seen them during the holiday season. I’ll run the electric train under the tree for the kids as often and as long as they’d like, I’ll re-watch the classic children’s Christmas shows with them – most of which we have on DVD and have been already been playing in our house since the day after Thanksgiving. I will make the time for such things because I will have already made certain that I have the time. And if they want me to read them a few Christmas stories at bedtime, such as “T’was The Night Before Christmas” or “Frosty The Snowman,” I’ll be happy to do it.

This is my philosophy on how Christmas should be celebrated. Enjoy the entire season and all of the things that make it such a special holiday, but don’t put things off so much that the last few days leading up it are too busy. The thought of shopping or even still wrapping gifts on Christmas Eve is unimaginable to me. For weeks, I've dashed to the mall in the evenings or on the weekends and have sometimes spent my lunch hour at work running Christmas errands just so that I would not have to be doing any of it right now. And now, with the holiday just a few days away, it's time to relax at home with the family and visit with the special people in our lives. It's time to enjoy all of the effort that went into making our home look so festive. And on Christmas Eve, it's time to spend a little quiet time thinking about its meaning and its message of peace and brotherhood.

There is a passage in “A Christmas Carol,” towards the very end of the story that describes a then-reformed Ebenezer Scrooge. It tells of how, after his three ghostly encounters on Christmas Eve, he always “knew how to keep Christmas well.”

Well, you now know how I try to keep Christmas well. And I also advise that you too try to slow down a bit and enjoy the next day or two as we prepare for the celebration. Try to get things done by Friday evening so that you too can have a most merry, merry Christmas.

It really is the most wonderful time of the year.

Champs should be crowned on the field

Penn State's undefeated season in 1994 and eventual victory in the
 1995 Rose Bowl is main the reason I no longer watch college football.

By Alan. K. Stout

Weekender Blog

Thankfully, the college football season is finally over. Now, when I open the sports page, or I put on a sports-talk radio station, and they're talking about football, they'll only be talking about the NFL.

I don't like college football. Well, let me rephrase that: I don't like the way college football chooses a "champion." In fact, many might say that it doesn't really have a champion at all. Last week, after the so-called "National Championship Game," people everywhere were still arguing over who was the best college football team.

It's ridiculous. And it happens almost every year. A couple of teams go undefeated, or maybe lose one tough game, and at the end of the season, three or four teams are all claiming to be No. 1. And frankly, I don't blame them. If you win all of your games, why shouldn't you feel that way? It's not the fault of the colleges, or the players, or the coaches that the season is a joke. It's the system's fault. And that's why I can't invest any time or interest in it. I don't watch sports for the joy of the game. I watch sports to see somebody win, and at the end of the season, to see somebody to be crowned the champion. And whoever that is should be determined on the field, or the ice, or the court. That's how it is in every sport.

Except college football.

At the end of the 1994-95 season, I went to State College to see the Nittany Lions play the last game of the regular season. Though I didn't go to PSU and could never understand how people could get so revved up rooting for a school they didn't actually attend, I'm a big admirer of Joe Paterno, and being born and raised in Pennsylvania, I was, of course, rooting for Penn State. It was a great day, as the team won the game and finished the season undefeated. But walking out the Beaver Stadium, there was an almost empty feeling. It was as if everybody knew the Lions would likely go on to win the Rose Bowl -- which they did -- but that it wouldn't really matter -- which it didn't. I don't even remember who it was -- maybe Nebraska or Miami -- but some other team won the Orange Bowl and were named "National Champions." Penn State's marvelous undefeated season meant zilch.

Why not just play a game and see who's better? That was it for me. Now, I don't even watch college football.

Frankly, I couldn't even imagine playing a sport that didn't have a true champion at the end of the season. I couldn't imagine going to all of those double-session practices, lifting all of those weights and putting in that type of commitment to something, and then go undefeated, and then have some "poll" tell me that my team was not the best. I couldn't imagine wasting my time playing a sport where the champion wasn't crowned on the field.

Perhaps no sport does this better than the NFL. The playoffs are a tournament. The quality of your season is rewarded by things such as a first-round bye and home field advantage. Yet at the same time, if you hit a bump in the road during the season, you can still make the playoffs, and if you raise your game, you can still advance. And the real beauty of it all is that it all ends with the Super Bowl. The two survivors of the long and hard season and the brutal playoff rounds meet on the field. The winner is the World Champion. Period. No discussion or debate afterward. No "poll." It's over. Fair and square. Baseball is pretty much the same. Long, hard season. Intense playoff tournament. World Series. Champion crowned. You say it wouldn't work at the college level? What would you call the College World Series? What would you call March Madness and the Final Four?

Only college football can't seem to get it right.

I love sports. I've seen my favorite teams win the World Series and Super Bowl in exhilarating fashion, and I've seen them lose the World Series and Super Bowl in heartbreaking fashion. It's what keeps me coming back as a fan. That's the thrill. And even if my team isn't in the playoffs, I can still watch and enjoy the NFL and MLB and know that I'm on my way to finding out which team is really the best.

Utah? USC? Florida? Texas? You college football fans can still dicker over who's the real champ. I didn't watch any of it. I will, however, be in front of my TV on Sunday watching the NFL. And on Feb. 1, I'll know which team is the best. There will be a Super Bowl Champion. Fair and square.

Decided on the field.

 

M*A*S*H with Mary Ann

By Alan K. Stout

Weekender Editor  

July 4, 2007

 

We've had her for almost five months now. She was born on February 9 and we brought her home just a few days before the biggest blizzard of the winter. We gave her an old family name, a name shared by her grandmother, and before that, her great-grandmother and great-great grandmother.

 

My daughter, Mary Ann, in just five months, has already stolen my heart. And though she’s still a relative newcomer to my life, I can’t imagine life without her.

 

Though I love music and sports and all of the things a man would like to share with a son, it was no secret in our family that this daddy always wanted a little girl, and already my daughter, with just her smile, has a way of putting everything in my life into perfect perspective.

 

Having a bad day, and you get that smile?

 

Suddenly, that day isn’t so bad.

 

Those first few days of her life back in February were memorable, mostly because of her arrival, and also because - since it was the dead of winter, frigid cold and dark most of the time - we didn’t do much other than stay inside and welcome this new little princess into our world. I recall sitting on the sofa and sometimes holding her for four or five straight hours, and though she slept most of the time, I will always remember with fondness those cold winter days and nights when Mary Ann and I first started to get to know one another, and when we first began what has become one of our nightly traditions.

 

We watch “M*A*S*H.”

 

I think it began that very first week we brought her home. I'd hold her in my arms as she slept and enjoy the old reruns and the crazy antics of the 4077th Mobile Army Surgical Hospital. I'd laugh at Frank Burns, Radar, Henry Blake, Trapper, B.J., Klinger, Margaret Houlihan, Winchester and Colonel Potter. And most of all, I'd laugh at Hawkeye’s wisecracks.

 

Holding Mary Ann and laughing at Hawkeye.

 

It’s something I'll always associate with the winter of 2007, and as we now get into the middle of summer, it’s still something that we do a few times a week. Only now, she’s much more animated and more in tune to her surroundings. I get those smiles all the time, and I sometimes feel as if she really is watching with me, and laughing at Hawkeye.

 

When we first learned we were having a daughter last year, I found myself very excited about her life, but not in ways that involved me. Of course I'm looking forward to all of the fun things that lie ahead in the coming years ... pigtails and dance recitals and amusement parks and Santa. I always want to be not only her father, but also her friend, and I will always be there for her throughout her life. But when I thought about her in the months before she was born, I was more exited about the fact that our child will experience some of the joys and beauty of this world on her own. I thought about, a few years from now, when she makes her first friend. I thought about when she’s about 17, and she stays up all night at the beach with her friends for the first time and watches the sun rise over the ocean. I thought about her traveling the country and the world, as an adult, and experiencing the joy of visiting new places.

 

I realize that, throughout her life, she’ll probably always remember most of those things. She’ll remember the pigtails, dance recitals, amusement parks and Santa, and of course, she’ll remember that first friend, that first time she saw the sun rise over the sea, and that first time she saw San Francisco, London or Paris.

 

What she won’t remember at all, however, are these past few months. She won’t remember the blizzard that she came home to, or the times I held her for five straight hours, or how her first smile made me smile. I know this and I understand this. We simply don’t remember much at all from our first few years. But still, I like to think that someday, many years from now, maybe just some of it will come back to her from time to time.

 

Maybe some cold winter night, many years from now, she'll be doing a little channel surfing and something will make her stop.

 

Maybe she'll have a little memory of sitting on her daddy’s lap, and somehow regain that sense of feeling safe and loved, and being welcomed into this world with a joy like no other.

 

Maybe she'll sit there, flash one of those great smiles of hers, and laugh at Hawkeye.

 

Yo Sly! You did it!

By ALAN K. STOUT

WEEKENDER EDITOR

December 27, 2006

Sylvester Stallone is selling himself way short.

I recently read a few stories about the film premier of “Rocky Balboa,” held in Philadelphia, of course, and about what a mob scene the screening had created. There were police escorts for the film’s star and a large group of frenzied fans wearing “Rocky” t-shirts, boxing gloves and even holding homemade signs.  But Stallone, in one of the stories, insisted it wasn’t him the crowd was waiting for.

“The character has transcended,” he said. “He’s a real living person in Philadelphia. I’m just along for the ride. I have no illusions that any of this is for me.”

It was a nice, humble comment – and maybe even partially true – but the fact is people know exactly who Sylvester Stallone is. And those cheers, more than anything, were indeed for him.   

Stallone is more than just a pretty good actor. He’s also a good writer and film director,  and though he’s taken his share of cheap shots from cranky critics over the years, some of which surely must have hurt his feelings, I’ve always hoped that he’s taken some solace not only in his bank account, but also in the fact that “Rocky” – based on his own screenplay -  won the Academy Award for “Best Picture” in 1976, and that by continuing the often heartwarming and inspiring stories for the past 30 years, he has given America a great gift: one of the most likeable and memorable characters in motion picture history.   

Weekender column published December, 2006.  

In reading some other stories about the release of “Rocky Balboa, I’ve also seen some revisionist history.  There’s been plenty of praise for the new film,  but some of it has come at the expense of the other “Rocky” sequels.  It seems some critics are saying, “Well, yes – this is a very good movie – unlike any of the others since the original.”

What a load of nonsense.

“Rocky II” was a terrific, very well done film and got plenty of good reviews at the time, and though “Rocky III” was a more slick and glossy production, it was one hell of an entertaining movie. Maybe the fourth installment seemed too formulaic and farfetched and even Stallone admits he was disappointed in “Rocky V,”  but he’s also admitted that was the main reason he felt somewhat compelled to do another. He felt he’d let fans and the character down, and for nearly 15 years, he felt badly about that.

And maybe that’s the thing that he and his most famous character both have in common. They both seem like good guys.

Thank you note from Sly Stallone

Stallone certainly didn’t need the money he’ll make from “Rocky Balboa” and reports say he wasn’t even paid that much by Hollywood standards to make it. He did it because he, like us, values the wonderful character he created and wanted to give him a proper sendoff.  And I can tell you that after seeing the new film, he has done just that. And he has reminded us why so many of us love “Rocky.”

It’s not just because he’s a great boxer and the fight scenes are exciting.  It’s because he’s got a big heart.  It’s because he is a very good guy, as so many of the scenes in this new film remind us.

Much has been made over the fact that Stallone is 60 years old and that 60 year-old men simply do not box, especially against the reigning heavy weight champion. It’s a more than fair point and one that Stallone is well aware. He says he knew going in that the critics would come out swinging just as hard in real life as Apollo Creed and Clubber Lang did in his films, but like “Rocky,” Stallone seems to have overcome the odds by delivering a very feasible script that’s getting great reviews and is again winning our hearts. Here, he was a real life underdog, trying to make a film that, initially, no studio wanted to make. But like the character, he has prevailed. And maybe, since so many of us grew up with him and that character, it’s part of the reason we were rooting for him and this movie.

I won’t ruin any of the details for you, but since it’s already pretty well known that Rocky’s beloved wife Adriane has passed away in the film, I will share one of my favorite scenes. On the anniversary of her death, after visiting her grave, he takes a sentimental stroll through the old neighborhood – past the pet shop where she once worked, the ice rink where they once skated, and the old apartment that they once shared together. While standing outside the place, his mind flashes back to their courtship and her image briefly appears on the screen.

“I can remember standing right here with her,” he says. “And I was asking her to trust me …

“And she did.”

The scene stuck with me all night. It was a different type of human emotion that Stallone had captured. Not one fueled by testosterone – which he is clearly great at – but one of fragility and vulnerability. And it was easy to imagine many men going home after seeing the film, pulling their wives close, and saying, “Don’t you go ever getting sick on me.”

And that, just as much as the glorious knockdown brawls, is why we love “Rocky” and why we also love Sylvester Stallone. He can get to us with these films. He makes us happy, he makes us sad, he gets us fired up, he makes us want to start jogging, or hit the gym. He makes us want to be better people, and he has given us a remarkable, iconic and lovable film character that we can all – without fear of sounding corny – be proud of and celebrate.

And for that, Sylvester Stallone – not Rocky – deserves some cheers.

“I have no illusions that any of this is for me,” he said.

Yes it is, Sly.

Yes it is.

Handwritten envelope from Sylvester Stallone

THE POWER OF PADRE PIO

MODERN DAY SAINT SETS EXAMPLE FOR PRAYER MEETINGS

 

(Original newspaper article. Click image for enlargment)

 

 
By ALAN K. STOUT
Times Leader Staff Writer
September 13, 2003

Padre Pio is considered by millions of Catholics to be one of the most fascinating people of the 20th century. In 1918, the stigmata - the same five wounds inflicted upon Christ during the crucifixion - appeared on Pio's body and stayed there until his death in 1968.  For 50 years, blood came from Pio's wounds, and as his legend began to grow, so did stories of miracles, which were attributed to his prayers and interventions. On June 16, 2002, Pope John Paul II declared Padre Pio a saint, the highest honor in the Catholic Church.

 What makes Pio's story more intriguing is that it is a contemporary story, not one passed down through the centuries. Pio is a modern-day saint, and images of his wounds can be found in numerous books that include photographs - even videotapes - showing Pio bearing the scars of Christ.

The source of the wounds is for you and your faith to decide. Yet there is no doubt the wounds existed, and that they sometimes caused Pio great discomfort.

The Rev. William J.P. Langan, pastor of St. Francis of Assisi Church and St. Joseph's Slovak Church, Nanticoke, is the spiritual director of a Padre Pio Prayer Group that meets each month. For Langan, who attended Pio's canonization in Rome, Pio's legacy doesn't rest on the stigmata nor tales of miracles, but rather on the way he led his life and the examples he set.

“He had an ability to bring people back to the faith who had been estranged from it for a long time - mostly by the power of the celebration of Mass, because he celebrated it so beautifully,” says Langan, who adds that Pio was also devoted to the sacrament of confession.  “He would sit in the confessional for up to 18 hours a day,” he says. “People would make reservations a month or two months ahead of time, to be able to get in to see him.”

Two of the greatest mysteries surrounding Pio is a miracle that reportedly occurred in 1947, when Pio prayed over a blind girl who was born without eye pupils. After the prayer, she was able to see, which doctors were unable to explain. Another mystery attributed to Pio are reports that upon his death in 1968, all signs of the stigmata disappeared from his body. There were no scars or signs of the wounds that had been there for 50 years.

In addition to those tales, there are reports that Pio was blessed with the gift of bi-location, and was sometimes seen in two places at the same time. And there are reports that those who pray to him for intercession sometimes experience a strong scent of flowers.

Still, Langan says that during Pio's life, the church was cautious in the way it handled his fame and growing legend, and that Pio was often a tormented soul.

“For many years, he was silenced because of the stigmata,” says Langan.  “They didn't want it to turn into a big circus, so he was told to just go about his simple work of hearing confessions and saying daily Mass. So he suffered - not just the wounds of Christ, exteriorly, but he also had a lot of interior suffering - just as many people do today. Many people have psychological or interior suffering, and if there's anyone that could speak to someone who's suffering like that, it would be Padre Pio, because he went through it himself.”

Langan says it was Pio's dignity and devotion to God, not simply the signs of the miraculous, that led to his canonization.

“It was his personal sanctity, not the manifestation of the stigmata,” says Langan. “His personal holiness in the midst of great suffering, both external and internal suffering, and his ability to remain holy and confident in God - that is the mark of his sanctity.”

The local Padre Pio Prayer Group meets once a month in Nanticoke. Meetings last about 90 minutes and include a scriptural reading, recitation of the rosary and prayers for those in need. Those who believe they have received an intercession for Padre Pio are welcome to share their stories with the group. Margaret Aciukewicz, who serves as vice group leader, says the group began meeting in May and it usually attracts 80 to 150 people.

“This man was a special man,” says Aciukewicz of Pio. “He was in love with God. Even though he suffered and had all of those pains, he still never gave up. He gives you hope. How many times in your life have you had difficulties, and you said `Oh Lord, can I do this?,' and you look at him and how he carried the marks of the real crucifixion, and yet he was a joyful man, and a man who was able to communicate with people, and he gave them encouragement.”

Sister Elizabeth A. Brody, group leader of the prayer group, says she became involved because she wanted to learn more about Pio. She describes the gatherings as “a very prayerful, peaceful and quieting environment.” She says she feels a connection to Pio because of his contemporary status and his selflessness.

“He was someone who lived in our time, and who is now a saint,” says Brody. “He had great dedication to the Eucharist and a great wanting to help people.”

That help, says Langan, continues today, 35 years after Pio's death.

“His life was extraordinary, but I do try to model my life somewhat after his compassionate attitude towards people,” says Langan. “He certainly helps me in my everyday duties as a priest.”

 
IF YOU GO:

WHAT: Padre Pio Prayer Group
WHEN: Meets at 3 p.m., third Sunday of the month.
WHERE: Site alternates between Francis of Assisi Church and St. Joseph's Slovak Church, Nanticoke. Next meeting is Sept. 21 at St. Joseph's.
INFO: 735-0331 or 735-6903
MORE INFO: The National Centre for Padre Pio is in Barto in the Diocese of Allentown, about a 75-minute ride from Wilkes-Barre. The Centre is the home of one of Pio's confessional booth, which has been imported from Italy, and one of Pio's protective gloves, which he wore to help control the bleeding of his stigmata.
ON THE NET: For more info, visit www.padrepio.org

(Originally published in The Times Leader, Wilkes-Barre, PA - September 13, 2003.)